August 23

August 23, 2011~

“I believe… Just because two people argue, it doesn’t mean they don’t love each other. And just because they don’t argue, it doesn’t mean they do love each other. I believe…That we don’t have to change friends if we understand that friends change. I believe…That no matter how good a friend is, they’re going to hurt you, every once in a while and you  must forgive them for that. I believe…that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love. I believe…that you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for live.  I believe…that it’s taking me a long time to become the person I want to be. I believe…that you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them. I believe…that you can keep going long after you think you can’t. I believe…that we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel. I believe…that either you control your attitude or it controls you. I believe…that heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.  I believe…that my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time. I believe…that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you’re down will be the ones to help you get back up. I believe…that sometimes when I’m angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn’t give me the right to be cruel. I believe…that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you’ve had and what you’ve learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you’ve celebrated. I believe…that it isn’t always enough, to be forgiven by others. Sometimes, you have to learn to forgive yourself. I believe…that no matter how bad your heart is broken, the world doesn’t stop for your grief. I believe…that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but, we are responsible for who we become. I believe…that you shouldn’t be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever. I believe…two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different. I believe…that your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don’t even know you. I believe…that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.” ~Unknown

I read this recently and was reminded of something a coworker said to me about 30 years ago. When she found out that Ron and I were engaged, she asked, “Do you know how he fights?” Puzzled, I asked her to explain. She said, “You need to know how he argues before you get married.” I told her that Ron and I had never had a argument, upon which she gasped and said, “Well, you better pretend one, so you will know how he fights and you will know if you are compatible with each other.” We never did have a “fight” before we got married, real or pretend. Well, almost thirty years later, I have to admit, we have had our disagreements but that is not where we keep our focus.  

Happy For A Reason Reasons:

1.       The ability to have disagreement and still love and be loved!

2.       That circumstances and situations may have influenced who I am, but I have the ability and responsibility for who I become.

3.       That even though the world doesn’t stop when my heart is broken…God is always there when it hurts!

4.       That I can control my attitude, so it doesn’t control me.

5.       That even though it is taking me a long time to become the person God wants me to be, God does not give up on me!